Oh, Valentine’s day, a time for romantic love and the celebration of lust. Like any other “holiday”, I think to myself, “what would Kierkegaard have to say about this day?” I think he would say, “Hey romantic love is great and all, but you really need to try out self-renouncing love, it’s really cool!” Alright, Soren, but what’s all this about “self-renouncing”?
The distinction between ‘yours’ and ‘mine’ disappears in self-renouncing love. In this act the individual gives up all that is his, such that he has nothing that he can say is “mine”. But because ‘yours’ and ‘mine’ exist in duality or polarity, the self-sacrificing one who gives up what is ‘mine’ sees that you give up what is ‘yours’. Because there is no “mine” there is no “yours”, such that everything becomes that of the self-renouncing one of true love. “All things are mine – I, who have no mine at all (Works of Love)” Thus, because ‘yours’ only exists in opposition with ‘mine’, if there is no ‘mine’ then there is no ‘yours’, and everything becomes ‘mine’.
Pretty kinky, Kierkegaard.